Slip-n-Slide Fun!

It has been soooo hot here lately!  The kids are irritable because they’re not getting outside to burn off enough energy, so we pulled out our generic slipnslide… aka contractor grade plastic!  
Getting a head start with Daddy’s help!
It’s always more fun 
with someone else!
I decided to be a fun mama and join in.
I’m sore, but it was more fun than I expected.  I guess we all need to be a kid every now and then!
He’s a fun daddy too…
who goes a lot further than everyone else!
She’s on a mission!
That smile is a gift!
I love hearing this boy laugh.
Happy boy!

I’m conflicted about Jacob

I put this on the FIAR message board, but there are a number of you with older boys who read here and not there, so I thought I’d ask.

I have these visions of Jacob, who is almost 8, wanting to chase squirrels and build tree houses and play in the dirt and go fishing and …, and …, and… But he wants to play video games, with transformers and superheroes and read comic books. When he has an interest, it becomes close to an obsession whatever it is. (He was ALL about Thomas until 6 months ago; now that has been replaced by superheroes. Oh! How I want Thomas back!!) How can I steer him into the direction of the vision forum kind of boy, or is that just a pipe dream??

I have allowed him to play with Transformers and held him off of superheroes as long as I felt like I could, but that is all he is interested in. He was only recently allowed to watch the old Star Wars movies (as a family movie night), but we don’t own any of them. He is allowed 1 hour of video games each day, 30 minutes of which is wii fit plus stuff. Anyway, I limit his exposure to these things, but his friends (that I can’t avoid) are all into these things, so he gets dosed with them regularly. Do I just let him go through this phase???

He is a bit of the odd one out by nature of his personality anyway. He’s quirky, not into sports (at ALL), and is emotionally young for his age though intellectually mature. So the culturally relevant things do give him something to connect with other boys his age.

Someone wrote, “I want my children to be producers, not consumers.” Those words describe some of my thoughts perfectly.  Jacob used to play for hours alone, totally entertained, enough that people consistently commented on his ability to entertain himself. Now it seems he has forgotten how to entertain himself at all and always wants someone to play with him, or something to watch, even though I tell him no all day long.

Anyway, I’m rambling. But I’m confused and need some advice. Got any?

Praying for…

So often I sit down to pray and feel like I just get stuck in a rut praying the same old thing for people.  Especially for Robert and the kids.  I have made lists in journals, but that doesn’t seem to help.  I jsut end up with rutted lists!  I do enjoy praying scripture for anyone.  I  figure I can’t go wrong with that!  But I also like the idea of lists or schedules to pray for people.

There are some really good books for this type of thing, but we have seriously tightened the belt on our budget, so I just decided to google instead. I found these lists I thought I’d share.  All three of them have scriptures included.

My sister found this late one night and shared it with me.  It is not necessarily a prayer list, but a nicely condensed list of attitudes and thoughts of mine I can pray to keep in check.  (It’s nice to have it all on a few pages rather than an entire book!)  These are all certainly areas in which I can use improvement!  And I know as God makes me more like Him, Robert will be blessed.


On another note, I am struggling “finding” time to pray.  I do very well when I have a routine.  And I have the time if I could add up 5 minute snippets at a time.  I used to feel guilty like I was choosing the computer over God, but in reality, I can e-mail with little focus for 3 or 10 minutes.  I can get up in the middle to break up an argument, help with a glass of water, or wipe a hiny.  I can’t get focused on God in 3 minute snippets.  I just don’t function that way.  Sure, I can pray in three minutes snippets, but not commune with and spend time with Him.

I enjoy my time with God when I can read His word for a few minutes to help my brain slow down and focus on Him.  Sometimes it’s just a chapter or two, and sometimes I get hung up somewhere and end up reading for much longer.  After that I enjoy praying and manage to stay well focused on Him.  The problem is I need it to be quiet!  And quiet and small children don’t mix!

I really need to get up in the morning, shower (to wake up) and have some time then.  Though that seems a bit pointless… if I ever do get up before she does, Mattie has a radar for my movement and will be up very soon after.  (Maybe I could shower downstairs.  Hmmm…)  If I wait until after everyone is in bed, it is quiet, but I end up falling asleep!  I just don’t know what to do!  I feel like it’s terrible parenting to put them in front of the tv, movie, or wii so I can have a quiet time.  (We generally watch very little tv.) And if I do bedroom time in the afternoon, Mattie comes out every 5 minutes asking if it’s over yet.

It’s not that I feel guilty, because He knows this season I am in, but I MISS my time with Him!  I miss what He teaches me, speaks to me, and asks of me.  I miss the conviction and softening that comes from time with Him.  Mostly, I just miss the time at His feet.

How do you get there??

What my Kids Think – Edited at end

This was good for a chuckle this morning… I promise this will be the last one of these nonsense question and answer things. It’s just that I don’t have the leftover brainpower right now to write anything original!

Answers written exactly as Jacob (almost 7) answered:

1. What is something mommy always says to you?
I love you.

2. What makes mommy happy?
Making stuff for you.

3. What makes mommy sad?
When I disobey.

4. How does your mommy make you laugh?
I don’t know. You don’t usually make me laugh.

5. What was your mommy like as a child?
I don’t know. You can ask Gramma Linda.

6. How old is your mommy?

7. How tall is your mommy?
I need a tape measure.

8. What is her favorite thing to do?
I would suggest do things with me.

9. What does your mommy do when you’re not around?
I don’t know because I’m not around!

10. If your mommy becomes famous, what will it be for?
I don’t know.

11. What is your mommy really good at?
Cooking and washing dishes. Oh, and walking on the treadmill with those weights!

12. What is your mommy not very good at?
Playing war games.

13. What does your mommy do for a job?
Well, you do chores around the house.

14.What is your mommy’s favorite food?
My guess is pizza.

15.What makes you proud of your mommy?
I’m proud of you for getting a lot of stuff painted.

16. If your mom were a cartoon character, who would she be?
Now this is a toughie!

17. What do you and your mommy do together?

18. How are you and your mommy the same?
We both have blonde hair.

19. How are you and your mommy different?
You’re a woman who’s a grown-up and I’m a boy who’s a kid.

20. How do you know your mommy loves you?
Because sometimes you do things for me and you hug me and kiss me.

21. Where is your mommy’s favorite place to go?
Choir practice.

Ten minutes later Jacob thoughtlessly hit Mattie in the face twice while he was spinning around with his arms outstretched. He didn’t stop after the first time (when I told him to).
He says angrily, “You should add to your questions ‘What makes Mommy mad?’ cause this obviously does!”